OK so this is a question that has been nagging at me for awhile. I know at lest part of the answer maybe you all can help me out with the rest of it.
1/2 the answer: Within Christian friends I think that part of it is that Satan knows how the friends have supported each other so far in their lives. He knows that those friendships were strong before that they had prayed together getting things done for God and helping each other stand firm. Satan knows that this is an amazing bond and he screws with it placing thoughts within each person saying that they no longer have any thing in common, that there problems are not the same and that there is nothing to talk about.
I know that I have been feeling at lest half of this. So right now I want to publicly say I am sorry to all my married friends that I have neglected some of my friendships based on thoughts that haven't been true. That I haven't wanted to fill people in on my life due to a lot of reasons, thus I haven't aloud my friends to be the blessing that they are. And I haven't aloud myself to be a blessing to them.
So here goes this is what has been going on in my life for the last 9 mouths. First off I came home for the summer in June. June went good for the most part I was able to spend time with my family and started working with the youth at church again. I didn't go back to Family to work because my boss Mike was fired right before I came home. July started out good until my Grandma Hennigan flipped due to the stress of having to take care of my Grandpa for the last 5 years. She told my Mom that my Grandpa had to go some wear so she could get some rest. So mom put him into respite care and after two days alone. My parents and I knew that my Grandma couldn't be left alone any more, because of her having Alzheimer's. So we talked and I decided that I would go live with Grandma until we figured out what we would do. It was that night that my Grandma fell and broke her hip. She laid of the floor until we got there the next morning. My mom and I went to the Hospital with her I was there before she went into surgery I held her hand, and kept her calm. This was so hard for me my Grandma was like a child. Little did I know then that, that would be the side of my grandma that I would end up seeing most of the time. July ended with Grandma in rehab, Grandpa in respite care, and my parents and I in Petoskey. We had a blast we went sailing for the first time and we also learned how to jet ski. God blessed us with a great time together and with friends.
August started bad and ended worse. My aunt and uncle took my grandpa on vaca and almost didn't bring him back they tried to take my grandma out of rehab and take her up to their cottage. They didn't secede, but there is allot to this story. My mom ended up having to ask the court for full guardianship of my grandparents. My uncle fought her on it he wanted co guardianship their were many reasons that my grandparents didn't want this and they were totally a wear of everything that was going on. The court sided with my mom and grandparents in September. And started the long proses of have to say goodbye slowly to them. This has been so hard my Grandpa and Grandma Hennigan have always been the grandparents with the most life. They have lived their life fully and with gusto so to have to watch them slip away slowly has been one of the hardest thing I have ever done. (there was one thing that got me through it you know the story of Mary and Martha were Mary chooses to sit at Jesus feet while Martha stands working well Christ taught me how to sit at feet by having me sit at my Grandpa's feet and listen. It has been very amazing for me to be able to sit and listen and feel that love.) This has also taken its toll on my bothers, Josh helped for as long as he could bare it. PJ helped once two years ago and feels that that is the only thing that he can do. For Matt thou his heart breaks every time he sees them. Grandpa had always been someone who understood him someone who he could talk to that would play his favorite game with him. They have been a major part of our lives going on vacations with us and celebrating all our highs with us. They have also been there to encourage us when we have been down.
So Oct. went by with my mom figuring out schedules and getting to caregivers for my grandparents I was there with her helping with the day care kids mostly Rio and Bella. Nov. was much of the same until Thanksgiving, neither Matt or Josh showed up. This was hard on my mom for many reasons. We found out the next day that Matt had been at my Grandpa and Grandma Mulfords and that my Grandma had had a small heartache, she was fine but this just added more then we received the news that my Uncle Mark had gone unresponsive and was rushed to the hospital my dad went with his parents and sisters Char and Colette to the hospital to be with sister Paulette and Mark. (back story my uncle Mark is dad to my cousin's Jordan and Heidi. And my dads brother in law. He was diagnosed with Leukemia a couple years before had a bone morel transplant and was fine until this thing called graphs vs. host hit it doesn't affect everyone.) So my uncle ended up with it went unresponsive on Nov. 23 and passed away on Dec. 9 soon after my family finished celebrating his daughters birthday.
It was right around this time that I was feeling the need to go back to Northern and finish school. So I talked with some people prayed about it, and things just fell into place. I received an apartment my finical aid went back through and I moved back up the weekend before classes started without any classes and still with some big questions. Which at the last minute God took care of. So I'm here in Marquette until I'm finished summer and all no breaks except the ones that are small. I figured out I left more this time than I did the first time stronger relationships and brand new relationships. But it also gives the opportunity to rekindle others.
I love my family and friends so much you have all had an amazing impact on my life. I love you. And miss you all so much. I will try my hardest to keep people informed on my life so that we can continue to be blessings to each other. And please keep me informed to.
Love ya again,
Christie
3 comments:
I knew it had been a rough year but I had no idea really.
I think there is a shift in relationships that does not need to happen. Would love to have you over for dinner when you are back in town.
My first thought is the half you already had figured out. Satan attacks. I have been vulnerable to those attacks in the past. Not feeling good enough to be anyone's friend.
I think another part is just being busy and not realizing where the time has gone and how long it's been since opening that communication line.
I can and have gone months without talking to anybody but family.
That being said, I love you dearly and think of and pray for you often. I am very happy (and a tiny bit sad) that you're up north. It's definitley something that you need.
I love you dearly. You're my best friend and I can't wait to see you again. My dor is always open here for you to drop by any time.
It's nice to see you're blogging again. I'm so sorry hon, for all the family stuff that's gone on! I understand, girl, having gone through it myself last year. But, there is always light in the darkness.
I have felt that way before too, with friends. I think there are a couple things to this. Yes, of course the enemy is lying and recognizing that is half the battle. Also, just because their lives have changed and moved on, doesn't mean our lives can't as well. Talk about the differences, try to understand each other. I think it's just more of a concerted effort than before. Although, I do have a friend that everytime we talk, she turns it to her marriage. I think in that exception, you just tell them in a nice way that you need to be heard too.
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